When Death Has a Date

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What MAID Means for Your Estate Plan

Margaret had been thinking about it for two years. After her ALS diagnosis, she’d done her research, spoken with her doctor, and made her decision. She knew the date. Her family knew the date. What nobody had gotten around to was her will. It was 15 years old, named an ex-spouse as executor, and didn’t reflect a single thing about her life as it was now.

The gift of a planned death is time. The tragedy is when that time isn’t used.

MAID (medical assistance in dying) gives Canadians with a grievous and irremediable medical condition the legal option to choose the timing of their death. That’s a profound thing, and this article isn’t about the medical process or the policy debate. It’s about something more practical: what having a planned death means for your estate, your documents, and the people you’re leaving behind.

Because MAID changes the estate planning conversation in ways most people, and honestly, many professionals, haven’t fully thought through.


You Know the Date. Your Documents Should Too.

When death is sudden, there’s no window to update a will or have the conversations that should have happened years earlier. With MAID, that window exists. The question is whether people use it.

A valid, up-to-date will is the starting point. But MAID raises some specifics that a sudden death wouldn’t. In Canada, a person must have mental capacity to consent at the time MAID is administered. That’s straightforward enough when someone is physically ill but mentally sharp. It gets more complicated when cognitive decline is part of the picture. People living with dementia face a genuine catch-22: they must be capable of giving informed consent immediately before the procedure, but as dementia progresses, that capacity disappears, which means they can become ineligible for MAID even if they clearly wanted it earlier. Outside Quebec, this forces an impossible choice: act earlier than you want to in order to ensure you still have capacity to consent, giving up time with the people you love, or risk losing capacity and being unable to access MAID at all. Quebec became the first jurisdiction in Canada to allow advance requests for MAID, effective October 30, 2024, but that option isn’t available to the rest of the country yet, and it remains in tension with the federal Criminal Code. The practical takeaway for anyone navigating a serious diagnosis is that the window to get both your MAID request and your estate documents in order while capacity is unquestionable may be shorter than it seems. Waiting too long isn’t just a practical problem; it can become a legal one.

The same applies to powers of attorney and personal directives. If those documents aren’t in place before capacity becomes an issue, the window may close faster than expected.


What a Personal Directive Can and Can’t Do Here

Personal directives let you document your healthcare wishes and name someone to make decisions on your behalf if you can’t. They’re a critical piece of any estate plan, and they become even more important when serious illness is part of the picture. (The name for this document varies by province: you may see it called an advance directive, a representation agreement, a healthcare directive, or a mandate, depending on where you live.)

But here’s something worth knowing: a personal directive cannot authorize MAID on your behalf. In Canada, MAID requires the person to be capable of consenting at the time it’s administered. A substitute decision-maker can’t make that call for you. This is different from other end-of-life decisions, like withdrawing life support, where a proxy may have authority.

That doesn’t make a personal directive less important. It makes it more important to have those conversations early, while you can speak for yourself. Your directive can still capture your values, your wishes around pain management, what quality of life means to you, and what you don’t want, all of which matters enormously to the people walking alongside you through this.

When Robert Was Diagnosed at 58

Robert had been meaning to update his personal directive for years. After his MS diagnosis, he finally started thinking about getting his documents in order, including thinking more seriously about MAID as a future option. By the time he sat down with a notary, his condition had progressed enough that there were questions about his capacity to sign. The notary required a capacity assessment before proceeding, which delayed everything by weeks and added stress to an already difficult time. Had Robert updated his documents two years earlier, none of that would have been necessary. The lesson isn’t that MAID planning is complicated. It’s that the time to do the paperwork is before you urgently need it.

If this has you thinking about where your own documents stand, the NEXsteps Planning Toolkit is a good place to start. It brings together 12 self-guided tools covering the key areas of estate and incapacity planning, so you can see what you’ve addressed and what still needs attention.


What the Executor Is Walking Into

When death is sudden, an executor is often working in a fog of grief and surprise. When death is planned, the dynamic is completely different, and in some ways harder.

The executor knows what’s coming. There’s time to prepare, which is genuinely helpful. But there’s also time for family tensions to come out, for questions about the estate to get raised before the person is even gone, and for the executor to feel caught between the wishes of the dying person and the emotions of the people around them.

A few things tend to catch executors off guard when MAID is involved:

  • The estate doesn’t automatically settle faster. A planned death doesn’t mean a simple estate. The same probate process, the same asset-gathering, the same beneficiary notifications apply. What’s different is that there can be more opportunity to organize, if the executor is looped in ahead of time.
  • Family dynamics get complicated. When there’s a known date, people sometimes start acting like the estate has already transferred. Conversations about “who gets what” can happen in ways that put the executor in an uncomfortable position, especially if the will says something different from what family members are expecting.
  • Beneficiary designations on registered accounts matter just as much. RRSP, TFSA, RRIF, and life insurance beneficiary designations pass outside the will entirely. If they haven’t been reviewed, a planned death doesn’t fix that.

The best thing a person choosing MAID can do for their executor is tell them what’s coming, share the location of all key documents, and make sure the will reflects current intentions.

What Diane Didn’t Expect

Diane was named executor for her aunt, who chose MAID after a cancer diagnosis. Her aunt had three weeks from the confirmed date to the procedure. Diane assumed that because her aunt was still sharp and organized, everything would be in order. What she found was a will that hadn’t been updated since 2009, two bank accounts her aunt had forgotten to mention, and a beneficiary designation on a life insurance policy that named her aunt’s late husband. None of it was unfixable, but all of it added work and delay during a time when Diane was also grieving. The documents didn’t need to be perfect. They just needed to be current.


What Families Should Be Thinking About

If someone in your family is considering MAID, or living with a condition where it might become relevant, the most useful thing you can do is normalize the estate planning conversation early. Not because death is imminent, but because having the documents in place is an act of care for everyone involved.

That means:

  • A will that reflects current wishes and names the right executor
  • Powers of attorney for property and personal care, signed while capacity is clear
  • A personal directive that captures values and healthcare preferences, even if it can’t authorize MAID directly
  • A conversation with the executor about where everything is and what to expect
  • A review of all beneficiary designations on registered accounts and insurance

MAID, at its core, gives people a measure of control in circumstances where so much feels out of control. The estate planning side of it is where that control becomes real, not just for the person dying, but for everyone they leave behind.


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Why a Legacy Letter Could Be the Most Important Thing You Ever Write

Why a Legacy Letter Could Be the Most Important Thing You Ever Write

Letters That Outlive You: Why a Legacy Letter Still Matters

How a Simple, Heartfelt Legacy Letter Can Leave a Lasting Impact on Those You Love

If you’ve ever wondered how you’ll be remembered, a legacy letter is one of the most heartfelt and lasting ways to share your personal message with those who matter most.

Here’s a simple question to consider: If you had five minutes to tell your loved ones what matters most, what would you say?

That’s a question I sometimes ask when talking about legacy planning. Not everyone has thought about it before, but once they do, the responses are often deeply moving. And it’s not about legal documents or financial instructions. It’s something more personal: a legacy letter.


What Is a Legacy Letter?

A legacy letter (sometimes called an ethical will or a values letter) is a written message you leave behind to share what’s in your heart. It might include your hopes for your loved ones, lessons you’ve learned, stories you want remembered, or a reminder of how much someone meant to you.

There’s no formal structure, just your words, your voice, and your values. You don’t need to be a writer, and you don’t need to wait until the end of life to begin.


A Story That Stays With Me

I once worked with a woman, let’s call her Margaret, who had done all the right things when it came to estate planning. Her documents were in place. Her executor was clear on the next steps. But she still felt something was missing.

“I want my daughter to understand why I made some of the decisions I did,” she told me. “And I want her to know how much I love her, even though we haven’t always communicated that well.”

Together, we worked on a simple letter. It wasn’t long or fancy, but it was thoughtful and heartfelt. When Margaret passed, her daughter told me it was one of the most meaningful things she received.  “I’ll read that letter for the rest of my life,” she said.

Moments like that remind me how powerful our words can be, especially when we’re no longer here to say them ourselves.


What Makes a Legacy Letter So Meaningful

In a world where so many messages are short-lived with texts, emails, social media, taking the time to write something lasting really stands out.

A legacy letter gives you the opportunity to say what matters most, in your own way. It doesn’t have to be polished or poetic. It just needs to be you.

Here are a few things people often include:

  • A bit about their life journey

  • What they value most

  • Hopes for the next generation

  • Apologies or forgiveness

  • Personal stories or advice

  • Messages of love and appreciation

You can write to one person, your whole family, or even your broader community or future generations. There’s no right or wrong way, only what feels meaningful to you.


Not Just for the End of Life

One common misconception is that legacy letters are only for those nearing the end of life. But really, anyone can write one, at any age.

Some people write them when they become parents. Others during a life transition like retirement. Some do it just because they feel a pull to put their thoughts on paper.

You can update your letter as life changes. Or write more than one. It’s a living document, just like your story.


Getting Started

If the idea appeals to you but you’re not sure where to begin, try this simple prompt:

“If I had five minutes to say what matters most, what would I write?”

That’s it. Start there. Don’t overthink it. Write like you’re talking to someone you care about. You can organize it later if you’d like, but the first step is simply getting your thoughts down.


Legacy in Action: When Brian turned 70, he gave each of his grandchildren a letter along with a small gift. One grandchild later told him, “I keep it in my desk and read it when I need encouragement.” That one page became a lifelong keepsake.

You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

For some people, the words come easily. For others, it takes a little reflection and guidance to get started.

I’ve helped many individuals find their voice and shape their thoughts into something meaningful, whether through conversation, structured questions, or by compiling letters into keepsakes for family to cherish.

If you feel ready to begin but aren’t sure how, you don’t have to figure it out alone. Writing your legacy letter can be part of a broader plan for your future and there are thoughtful resources that can help make that process easier and more personal.

You’ll find more details about our services on NEXsteps.ca, including ways to preserve your letter or include it in a memory book.


A Simple, Lasting Gift

A legacy letter isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being real. It’s your chance to say what matters most, in your own voice, while you still can.

You might be surprised how meaningful this simple act of writing can be, not just for those who receive your letter, but for you as the writer, too.

So go ahead! Grab a pen or open a blank document. Start with just one sentence. You don’t have to share it yet. But starting is what counts.

And if you’d like support along the way, I’m just a message away.

Your words matter. Let’s help you share them.


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Estate Planning & Your Digital Legacy: What Happens to Your Online Accounts?

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Why Your Digital Legacy Matters

Estate planning is often associated with physical assets like houses, cars, and financial accounts. However, in today’s digital age, your online footprint is just as important. From social media profiles and email accounts to cloud storage and online businesses, your digital assets hold sentimental, financial, and legal significance.

Failing to plan for your digital legacy can create confusion for loved ones, leaving them unsure of how to manage your online presence. Without clear instructions, important accounts may become inaccessible, personal data could be lost, and online identities could remain active long after they should be retired. Proper planning ensures your digital legacy is managed according to your wishes, providing peace of mind for both you and your heirs.


Understanding Digital Assets: The Invisible Inheritance

Your digital legacy consists of more than just data—it includes:

  • Social media accounts (Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter, etc.) that may contain personal photos, videos, and messages.
  • Email accounts that may hold essential personal or financial information.
  • Online banking and investment accounts that could require secure management.
  • Digital photos, videos, and documents stored in the cloud that have sentimental and financial value.
  • Websites, blogs, and domain names that may need to be maintained, sold, or shut down.
  • Cryptocurrency and digital wallets that require access credentials and instructions for heirs.
  • Online subscription services (Netflix, Spotify, Amazon, etc.) that should be canceled to avoid ongoing charges.

A key concern is what happens to these assets when you pass away. Some social media platforms allow memorialization, while others permit account deletion by designated representatives. Financial and email accounts often have strict access policies, potentially locking out loved ones unless legal arrangements have been made in advance. Understanding these policies can help ensure your online presence is handled appropriately and according to your wishes.


Planning Your Digital Legacy: Defining Your Wishes

A well-structured digital estate plan ensures that your online accounts are managed according to your preferences. Consider taking the following steps:

    • Document Your Digital Assets: Make a comprehensive list of your accounts, login details, and any specific instructions for each one. Store this information securely using a password manager or in a document accessible only to a trusted individual.
    • Choose a Digital Executor: Assign a trusted person to manage your online assets. This individual should have clear instructions on how to access and handle your accounts, whether that means closing them, memorializing them, or transferring ownership.
    • Include Digital Directives in Your Will: A digital will or estate plan directive can formally outline your wishes regarding your online presence. Some jurisdictions allow legal recognition of digital asset management instructions, so consult an estate planning attorney for guidance.
    • Provide Instructions for Your Social Media Accounts: Many platforms offer legacy settings where you can designate someone to manage or close your account after your passing.
    • Consider a Digital Time Capsule: Some people choose to leave behind digital messages, letters, or videos to be shared with loved ones after they’re gone, creating a meaningful digital legacy.

Tools and Resources: Taking Action

There are several ways to organize and secure your digital estate:

    • Digital Estate Planning Platforms: Services like Google’s Inactive Account Manager and password managers like LastPass or 1Password can help manage access to your accounts.
    • Social Media Legacy Settings: Many platforms offer options for handling accounts after death. Facebook, for instance, allows users to select a legacy contact or request account deletion. Google offers the Inactive Account Manager, which allows users to designate what happens to their data after a period of inactivity.
    • Legal Assistance: A lawyer specializing in estate planning can ensure your digital estate is incorporated into your overall legacy plan, preventing legal complications for your loved ones.
    • Cloud Storage & Backup Solutions: Ensure important documents and photos are backed up and that trusted individuals know how to access them.

Protecting Privacy: Honoring Your Digital Legacy

Taking steps to secure and protect your digital presence before passing away is just as crucial as planning for its management after death.

    • Prioritize Data Security: Use strong passwords, enable two-factor authentication, and keep a secure record of your credentials.
    • Minimize Your Digital Footprint: Regularly review and delete unnecessary accounts and personal information to reduce potential risks. Unused accounts can become vulnerable to hacking or fraud, so closing them in advance can protect your legacy.
    • Create a Meaningful Digital Legacy: Consider writing a digital farewell message, archiving meaningful content, or preserving important digital assets for family members. Some individuals choose to turn their online presence into a digital memorial, allowing loved ones to reflect on their life and legacy.
    • Inform Your Loved Ones About Your Digital Plan: Make sure trusted family members or your executor know where to find your digital estate plan. This will prevent unnecessary struggles in accessing important accounts and files.

The Future of Digital Estate Planning

As technology evolves, so do the considerations around digital estate planning. Artificial intelligence, blockchain, and evolving privacy laws will continue to shape how digital assets are managed after death. Some companies are already offering digital legacy solutions, allowing people to store and pass on their online information securely.

Additionally, as virtual reality and the metaverse expand, new questions will arise regarding the ownership and transfer of digital properties, avatars, and digital identities. Keeping your estate plan updated will ensure that your digital legacy aligns with both current legal guidelines and your personal wishes.


Don’t Leave Your Digital Footprint to Chance

Your digital legacy is an extension of your life and values. By making thoughtful preparations, you can ensure that your online presence is handled with care, protecting your loved ones from unnecessary stress while preserving your memory in a way that aligns with your wishes. Whether it’s securing access to important accounts, leaving behind meaningful messages, or protecting your privacy, taking action today can make all the difference for your loved ones in the future.  Estate planning is no longer just about physical possessions—it’s also about safeguarding your digital identity.


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