Estate Planning in Your 30s: What Nobody Told You
A few weeks ago, someone in their early 30s told me she’d been meaning to sort out a will for a couple of years. She and her partner had just bought their first place. They had a dog. No kids yet. She said, “I know we should probably do it, but it feels like something for later.”
I hear this a lot. And I get it. Estate planning has a reputation for being something older people do, something you graduate into once life gets complicated enough to justify the paperwork. So it sits on the list, somewhere below “book the dentist” and above “learn to make sourdough.”
Here’s the thing, though. Life is already complicated enough. And for people in their 20s and 30s, the gaps in a plan that doesn’t exist yet can be some of the most consequential ones of all.
Your 20s Called. They Want You to Sort This Out.
The idea that estate planning is for older people exists because we associate it with death, and we associate death with age. But incapacity doesn’t work that way. Accidents don’t work that way. Sudden illness doesn’t work that way.
The 32-year-old who has a serious car accident on the way to work doesn’t get to defer that situation because it’s inconvenient. If they can’t communicate, someone needs to make medical decisions and manage their finances. And unless they’ve named that person in legally valid documents, the people who love them most may have no authority to do anything at all. Not their partner. Not their parents. Not their closest friend.
That’s not a worst-case scenario designed to frighten anyone. That’s just how the law works.
What Actually Happens When There’s Nothing in Place
When a young adult loses capacity or dies without planning documents, the people left dealing with it don’t just feel grief. They feel helpless. They hit walls.
A partner who isn’t legally a spouse may have no standing to make healthcare decisions. Parents who want to help may discover they have no more legal authority over a 25-year-old’s finances than a stranger does. Siblings may disagree about what their brother or sister would have wanted. In Canada, when there’s no enduring power of attorney and no personal directive, families may need to apply to court to get authority to act. That process takes time, costs money, and happens at the exact moment when nobody has the energy or clarity to navigate it.
And when a young person dies without a will, their estate goes wherever provincial intestacy laws direct it, which may have no resemblance to what they actually would have chosen.
When love isn’t enough
When Tyler was 29, he was in a serious mountain biking accident that left him in hospital, unable to communicate, for three weeks. His girlfriend of four years was at his side every day. But she couldn’t authorize his treatment, couldn’t access his accounts to keep his rent paid, and couldn’t speak to his employer on his behalf. Everything she tried to do for him hit a wall. They’d been together for years and were talking about getting engaged. Nobody had told them that wasn’t enough.
If You’re Single, This Is More Urgent, Not Less
One of the most persistent myths in estate planning is that single people without children don’t need to worry about it. The logic being: there’s no family to protect, so what’s the risk?
The risk is that nobody has automatic authority to act for you.
If you’re single and something happens, there’s no spouse or partner to step in. There’s no legal framework that puts your best friend in charge of your care, even if that’s exactly what you’d want. Without a properly documented personal directive, medical professionals are left navigating next-of-kin rules and guessing at your wishes. Without an enduring power of attorney, your parents may find themselves trying to manage your apartment, your accounts, and your obligations without any legal standing to do so.
And if you die without a will? Your assets go to your closest relatives under provincial law. If you’d rather see your money go to friends, chosen family, a partner you weren’t legally married to, or a cause you cared about, that won’t happen unless you’ve put it in writing.
Being single isn’t a reason to skip this. It’s a reason to get it done sooner.
If You’re in a Common-Law Relationship, Read This Twice
One of the biggest misconceptions in estate planning is the idea that common-law partners automatically have the same legal rights as married spouses. In reality, the rules vary widely across Canada. In some provinces, a surviving common-law partner may have limited rights or no automatic inheritance rights at all without proper estate planning in place.
If you and your partner aren’t married and one of you loses capacity, the other doesn’t automatically have authority to manage finances or make medical decisions. If one of you dies without a will, the surviving partner may have no automatic right to the estate at all, regardless of how long you’ve been together or how intertwined your lives are.
This isn’t a criticism of common-law relationships. It’s a gap in the law that catches people completely off guard. The fix is simple: get the documents in place now, while everything is fine and there’s no urgency, because urgency is exactly when you don’t want to be sorting this out.
If You Have Young Children, There’s No More Waiting
If there’s one group of young adults for whom this is truly urgent, it’s parents of minor children. Not just because of the financial side, though that matters too. Because of the guardian question.
If something happens to both parents and there’s no will naming a guardian, a court decides who raises your children. That court doesn’t know your family. It doesn’t know who you’d trust, who shares your values, who your kids already know and love. It makes a decision based on whatever information it has available, which without a will is very limited.
Naming a guardian doesn’t take anything away from anyone. It simply puts your voice into a decision that would otherwise be made without you.
If You Have No Children, Your Stuff Still Goes Somewhere
People who’ve chosen not to have children sometimes assume estate planning doesn’t apply to them because there’s no obvious heir. But an estate without a will doesn’t disappear. It goes to whoever provincial law directs it to, following a hierarchy that typically starts with a spouse, then parents, then siblings, then more distant relatives.
If none of that reflects what you’d actually want, a will is the only way to change it. Maybe you’d want to leave something to a close friend. Maybe to one sibling and not another. Maybe to an organization that mattered to you. None of that happens without a document that says so.
The Incapacity Piece Is the One Most Young People Miss Entirely
When young adults do think about estate planning, they think about wills. They think about what happens when they die. What they almost never think about is what happens if they’re alive but can’t make decisions for themselves.
That scenario, incapacity due to accident, illness, or injury, is statistically more likely to happen to a person in their 20s or 30s than death is. And the documents that handle it, an enduring power of attorney for financial decisions and a personal directive for healthcare and personal decisions, are completely separate from a will.
A will does nothing in an incapacity situation. The documents that matter are the ones that name someone to act for you while you’re still here but unable to speak for yourself.
The will that couldn’t help
When Priya died at 34, she had a will. Her executor found it, it was valid, and everything was in order. But Priya had been in a coma for six weeks before she died, and during that time her family couldn’t manage her finances or make medical decisions on her behalf, because she had no power of attorney and no personal directive. The will only came into effect after she was gone. For the six weeks she was still alive, the people who loved her were powerless.
Where to Start
None of this needs to be complicated at this stage of life. A basic will, an enduring power of attorney, and a personal directive are the foundation. They don’t need to be elaborate. They need to exist and to reflect your actual wishes and circumstances.
If you’re not sure where your planning actually stands, Designed or Default™ is a good place to begin. It’s a self-guided online tool that helps you take stock of what you’ve put in place intentionally and what might still be happening by default.
For the incapacity side, Who Speaks for You?™ and Your Voice, Your Care™ are both self-guided online tools that walk you through your power of attorney and personal directive decisions respectively. All three are jurisdiction-specific and designed to guide you through decisions most people haven’t thought about before.
The Bottom Line
“I’m too young for this” is a comfortable story. It lets you put it off without feeling irresponsible. But it’s not actually about age. It’s about whether the people who matter to you would be protected and supported if something happened today.
For most people in their 20s and 30s, the honest answer is no. Not because they don’t care, but because nobody told them this was already their problem to solve.
Now you know.
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